Take Care of You: 10 Ways to Practice Self-Care Today

Self-care. Often times we feel guilty or selfish when focusing solely on ourselves. Especially when we have others depending on us like a spouse, children, other family members, and friends. In the words of my best-friend Katrina, “Self-care is not the absence of loving others. Rather, it is making sure not to neglect yourself in the process. No one can pour from an empty well.” Not sure where to start? Here’s a few ways you can show yourself a little TLC today.

Identify things that make your heart smile, and do them often!

This was something my therapist made me do after our first session. “Think of all the things that make your heart smile and write them down. Make an effort to do as many of these things for yourself as often as possible.” There are so many things on my heart smile list from coloring to impromptu trips to the National Harbor. Whatever makes your heart smile, write it down, and do them!

Play your favorite upbeat song and sing & dance like nobody’s watching–in the mirror.

This is self-explanatory. Turn on and upbeat tune and give yourself a show. Lip sync for your life or shout the lyrics boldly. Let go and have fun!

Take yourself on a “Me, Myself, & I” date.

This is one of the best self-care practices, especially if you’re learning to TRULY love yourself and enjoy your own company. Take yourself to the movies, get dressed up and go to a nice restaurant, go walk around in the park. Whatever you choose to do, TREAT YO SELF!

Complete a DIY project.

If you’re like me and are constantly pinning different DIY projects on Pinterest then ACTUALLY completing one of these projects will bring you much joy! Pick something simple to start off with and see how you feel after. If you enjoyed it, move onto something a little more complex. My most recent favorite has been creating shadowboxes for people, so fun!

Watch one of your favorite childhood movies.

Pretty self-explanatory. Whether it’s a Disney classic, something from the 80s, or a black & white western. Sit back, relax, and watch.

Catch up with an old friend who you haven’t seen or talked to recently.

I don’t know about you, but my friends are an essential part of my life. Life can get hectic and busy and you can look up and it’s been a month since you’ve talked to one of your good friends. I know that whether it’s been five days or five weeks, I can pick up the phone and call my friends and we’ll chat it up like it hasn’t been a while since our last conversation.

Pin positive affirmations where you can see them.

I talk about positive affirmations a lot because THEY REALLY DO WORK! Wherever you’re spending the most time, that’s where you should pin them. In your room, in your car, in your phone.. Post them where you will SEE them!

Take a bubble bath complete with candles and music.

No explanation needed. Added bonus if you add a glass of wine. 😛

Say no, with no explanation.

Don’t feel like going out with that certain someone tonight? Say no. Don’t feel like doing that favor or two? Say no. Not really in the mood to babysit tonight? Say no, and mean it. Added bonus if you don’t include a “sorry”. It’s not selfish, you‘re taking care of you.

Unplug for an hour, or two.

This one is VERY important. In the age of social media it’s easy to spend hours browsing different profiles on different platforms, comparing lives and reading gossip. Sometimes the bad news, political debates, and internet trolls become a bit much. It’s okay to unplug for an hour or two, or maybe even a day or two. Clear your mind, regroup, purge your friends lists if you need to. Just remember to #ProtectYourMentalHealth.

Remember, self-care is the best care and it isn’t selfish at all. Take care of you.

25 Comments

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    Theresa Reneé

    December 30, 2016

    I love this!!!

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    Toni

    January 1, 2017

    I practice these things and trust me, they work! Great suggestions!

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    kemkem

    January 2, 2017

    Numbers 1 and 2 are my absolutely favorite things to do. It’s amazing how uplifting those are. I will also watch an old favorite too 🙂 . Great list.

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    LeShelle, host of MRTV

    January 2, 2017

    Mental health days. Every 2-3 weeks, I take extra long weekends to care for myself. I can see incorporating a few of these additional ways can also be beneficial.

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    Donna Shana (@byDonnaShana)

    January 2, 2017

    Ok, I love this. We typically run and take care of others so much that there is barely anytime left for ourselves. But I am going to commit to taking care of me as well this year.

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    Kenya

    January 2, 2017

    This is a great list! A couple of these get me together when I am in a funk…

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    Mimi Green

    January 3, 2017

    I do some of these but not enough. This year I’ve bumped me up to the top of the list.

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    Antoinette

    January 3, 2017

    Self-care is essential. On yesterday, I zoned out and listened to my favorite music. I felt so energized.

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    Kirstin N. Fuller (@thetravelindiva)

    January 4, 2017

    Awesome advice. it’s funny that we’ve all realized that this is the year of self-care! Let’s do this! i’ve been doing a lot more of the things I love including DIY, car Karoake to the 80s channel and watching reruns of Star Trek: The Next Generation lol. This is our year of self-care, let’s embrace it!

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    everythingcurvyandchic

    January 4, 2017

    I do me dates pretty often it’s the only thing that keeps me going when I’m stressed

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    Stephanie Cooper

    January 4, 2017

    Can’t forget about yourself! I’m doing better about that this year. I’m all about making sure my kids and everyone else is taken care of. I need to take more time for me.

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    Tiffany H.

    January 4, 2017

    I need to practice unplugging from social media, before you know it you have spent hours on FB. Loving taking baths with a book and need to do that more often

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    Jonna

    January 6, 2017

    I’m incorporating these into my routine in one way or another this year. I like how I feel when I do them so I have to make sure I do them often.

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    Ty

    January 9, 2017

    These are great tips and I love all of them. I totally believe in self care and making them part of my weekly routine.

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    T. Espi (@TheStyleMedic)

    February 1, 2017

    I love this! Especially “Play your favorite upbeat song and sing & dance like nobody’s watching–in the mirror” I don’t usually do this in the mirror but in my car… girl, concert time LOL and I have a good time laughing at myself while I perform 🙂

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      Ashleigh

      February 8, 2017

      lol yess! I’m a big fan of giving car concerts, big finish and all! hahaha

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    stephanie

    April 10, 2017

    Great tips and reminders! Very positive, actionable tips. Thank you 🙂

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    Tee

    April 10, 2017

    Playing music and dancing like nobody is watching is def my fav! nothing some music and dance cant fix.

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    Marlene Wetch

    April 10, 2017

    this is such a great reminder! i often feel guilty for tending to my basic needs, like quiet time. And basic needs like new clothing! I swear i have not bought me new clothes of any kindsince my son was born, in 2011!

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      Ashleigh

      April 11, 2017

      Well I think this is a challenge to do something for you, buy a new outfit girl!

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    Hope Sencer

    April 10, 2017

    I’m excellent at taking care of everyone else…..but not myself! Katrina’s comment is going right onto my vision board – so well said!

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    Sumudu

    April 11, 2017

    I garden. actually only just started as a gardener as a mid-life crisis. And now I love it.

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    Sticki Nicci

    November 2, 2017

    Great Tips! Self-care is so important. I am realizing that more and more as I get older and have what I feel are obligations with family and friends. Thank you for sharing. I may be late to the blog, but I’m here now☺️

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      Ashleigh

      November 3, 2017

      Thank you for reading!! Obligations with family and friends can’t outweigh taking care of yourself.

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