You Won’t Have Everyone’s Support

For anyone with a business, brand, blog, or whatever. Everyone won’t and does not have to support you.

Everyone is not going to be your target audience. This goes for best friends, close family members, associates, coworkers, etc etc.

Everyone will not need or buy your product. Not everyone will read or share your blog. Not everyone will support your brand.

Spend your energy delivering to those who do support you versus using your energy to speak out against those who don’t.

Just my unsolicited piece of advice for the evening.

-Facebook status written awhile back.

This was a lesson I had to learn when I first began blogging. Yes, it would be great if all your friends and family read and shared your work. Yep, it would be totally helpful if they bought your product or attended your event but the truth is they don’t have to. Mommy and Daddy may love you, but they may not necessarily care for “Who Wore What to the Oscars” your best friend is the greatest but she may not care to attend your networking brunch. The quicker you realize this, the quicker you can save yourself from feeling hurt or unsupported.

I know sometimes it hurts…

I won’t lie and say I never FSKW when a friend shares a similar blog post to mine. And I know for a fact they didn’t read mine. Definitely, won’t lie and say it’s not one of my biggest pet peeves when someone asks me advice on something I’ve already written about and shared numerous times.

Whether you’re currently inspired and putting out content left and right ooooor currently unmotivated, and for whatever reason holding back and at a standstill. Continue to walk in your purpose. You were given the gift and desire to create for a reason. The world needs your song, your book, your painting, your poem, your photos, your blog, your story, your product.

You know who will continuously support you? Those people who need your posts. Or those who need to attend an event like yours. Or those who needs a product you’re offering. Focus your energy and efforts on providing for and showing gratitude to those loyal to your brand. The ones who like and/or share every post, the first ones to purchase a ticket to your event, the ones who stock up on whatever you’re offering. As long as you put in the effort, remain consistent and genuine, the support will come.

 

 

21 Comments

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    Dot Forehand

    March 17, 2017

    So True!!

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      Ashleigh

      March 17, 2017

      Thanks for reading!

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    Yasmine Saibou

    March 17, 2017

    I struggle with this! I expect all my family and friends to support every thing I do! Great post

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      Ashleigh

      March 17, 2017

      Yep and our expectations is what leads to us being disappointed. It would be nice to have everyone support us but the truth is everyone won’t.

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    feleciamonique88

    March 17, 2017

    Definitely adjusting to the blogosphere and was hoping my friends and family would be my biggest stans. Not the case. Another adjustment. Great read!

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      Ashleigh

      March 18, 2017

      Yeah, some of my friends are my biggest supporters but a lot of my support comes from perfect strangers and I’m appreciative of it. Everything isn’t for everybody.

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    Talisa G.

    March 20, 2017

    I thankfully was aware of this before I entered the blogging world. I know friends & family won’t always support, and that’s okay because I don’t ask/expect them to. I think about it from a purely business perspective; whether they’re friends or family, if the individual isn’t part of my target audience or market, I won’t ask & expect them to support. Most of my friends don’t even know what I’m up to, unless I know they’ll benefit from it.

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    Kimberly

    March 20, 2017

    If this isn’t the truth, I don’t know what is! One of my biggest issues is wanting to please everyone and that most certainly isn’t possible. I’m learning to take it in stride and realize that I can still make a difference despite not making everyone happy.

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      Ashleigh

      March 21, 2017

      Yes that’s a key right there, your posts will make a difference for those who need them most!

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    kemkem

    March 20, 2017

    Yep! Very few of the people you actually know will support you. You need to develop a thick skin and focus on the ones that are there for you. Great post and l think a lot of people need to realize this :-).

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    Michelle Malone

    March 20, 2017

    Great advice, Ashleigh! That’s a hard pill to swallow sometimes. Then sometimes you’ll get a surprise comment, like, or share that just puts of the sad feelings to shame. Today, a lady knew 30 years ago shared my post. It made my day. Also, a friend of my mother’s who lives in California commented on one of my posts and has subscribed via e-mail. It’s the little things that keep up motivated and walking in our purpose. Best wishes, Sis!

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      Ashleigh

      March 21, 2017

      Yes, I recently was followed by a blogger whose post inspired me to start blogging as well and it was a sweet surprise!

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    Ty

    March 21, 2017

    This is so true and as someone who has been blogging for 5 years now, I know for sure that everyone is not going to support you. And even those that do, may not all the time and I’m cool with that.

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    Tia | Pennies In My Pocket

    March 21, 2017

    This is a hard lesson for some to learn but very true. I choose not to focus on those that are not supportive and give my energy and appreciation to those that do.

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    Tonia Sanders™ (@TheChattyMomma)

    March 21, 2017

    I feel some kind of way when my friends share blog posts from others that are considered competition. I’m like, “WTH…where’s my support too?”

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      Ashleigh

      March 21, 2017

      I totally get that, and sometimes I still feel some kind of way as well. But being new in the game I don’t view other bloggers as competition (especially since I haven’t monetized it) but rather as people I can learn from (what to do and what not to do).

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    Becc Smith

    March 21, 2017

    Definitely have to press your way. Everyone isn’t a supporter bu that doesnt take away from what you are doing. Great post!

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    staciesayzso

    March 22, 2017

    Good point! My friends and family hardly read my blog, well except for my mom. Doesn’t stop me though.

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    beautythatwalks

    April 9, 2017

    This is so true, blogging can be so tough at times. I might get a little share here and there from friends/family which is good enough for me.

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    Ciara

    August 16, 2018

    THER ADVICE IS STILL USEFUL A YEAR LATER! Couldn’t have said it better❤️

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      Ashleigh

      August 22, 2018

      Thank you love!!

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