Letter To My Younger Self

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Dear Little Me,

I've been thinking about what I'd say to you if I had the chance. You just turned 25 a few months ago. Yep, you’re a quarter of a century old. Fortunately, you're not married yet. That was one of your first “goals by 25” before you even had an understanding of what marriage entails. Silly you. You can't even imagine being someone’s wife in this exact moment in time and that’s okay because there’s plenty of time for that.I’ve been on this journey of living life a little better than you are right now. It is now 2017 and in case you were wondering, no one has built a time machine yet. Otherwise, I’d just go back and tell you all of these things when they were most necessary instead of writing you this letter you’ll never read. First off, don’t be so stuck in your ways, life will show you that we are always evolving, changing, and growing.

With each stage of life, evolutions become necessary. Change and growth can and will be difficult sometimes but we’re not meant to stay static. Your thoughts will change, your outlook on certain situations will change, YOU will change. No, seriously, you might not even recognize me if you met me. lol It’s okay to question what you’re taught. Think for yourself and decide what it is that you believe and what kind of person you want to be. You are allowed to reinvent yourself as often as necessary, but you don’t have to be anyone but yourself. It’s okay to have trial and error periods of your life to figure out who you are and who you want to be and what makes you happy. You don’t have to be perfect, you don’t have to always be strong, and you won’t always have the answers.

Next, don't let what others say about you dictate how you feel about yourself. They won't even care but you'll be the one stuck with the tears, depression and hurt feelings and spend years learning how to love yourself. It hurts, it’s lonely, and it sucks but between you and me, most of the people who made you feel like shit are doing terrible right now so you got the last laugh lol Love those lips. So what everyone calls them DSLs, pretty soon chicks are going to be paying top dollar for them. The weight will come and go, don’t focus so much on it. That dark skin? GOLD! Appreciate it. That “fivehead”? *eye-roll* Chile, Tyra’s is bigger than yours and she’s a damn supermodel, chill.

Don’t be so dramatic, you WON’T be miserable forever and yes it actually does get better. Much better, beyond anything you could’ve imagined for yourself. This, in part, is a result of therapy. GO. TO. THERAPY. Seriously, just go. Make it happen, don’t wait so long. So many down periods could’ve been avoided had you had the tools necessary to get through them, therapy being one. It’ll change your life, save it even.Last but not least, be selfish. It really is okay. It won’t make you a terrible person to put yourself first. Protect your mind, body, and spirit from anything or anyone that is not meant to grow you or help you. Do what YOU need to do to be okay.

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*This post was updated and featured on YettiSays.com*